Just what is it about in memoriam fundraising that charities have so much trouble with? It’s a reliable source of income (people continue dying), and since the beginning of time people have wanted to mark the death of someone they care for with a tribute of some description.
It is increasingly common to make charitable gifts to mark the death of someone close to us, with gifts in lieu of flowers at funerals or a more considered gift relevant to the deceased – maybe a life passion or cause of death (donation to a sports club or to a cancer charity, for example) – or maybe a more permanent memorial. So if people want to give to us in this way, why is it still under-developed in so many charities?
In memoriam (in mem) is of course a sensitive area of fundraising and trustees and service-delivery colleagues can be very sceptical, if not hostile, to something that can be seen as intrusive, and in many organisations there are explicit guidelines preventing fundraisers contacting the bereaved for an extended period following a death.
However, all experience shows that it is perfectly OK to contact the bereaved as long as it is done sensitively and appropriately. Fundraisers need to convince colleagues that the fundraising they are proposing conforms to a set of guiding principles that everyone can see, believe in and accept. If an in mem programme is developed within a defined communication plan, using appropriate language and reflecting the donor’s need for their gift to be valued, then it should reassure colleagues that there is a supportive element in the communications but that it can still deliver a cost-effective income stream.
It is essential that any programme starts off on the right foot and that your in mem strategy has clear goals and objectives.
You may not feel that in mem and tribute fundraising are particularly appropriate for your cause, but, for example, tribute funds can be celebration funds and not just remembrance funds. People will always want to remember loved ones and sometimes celebrate their lives, and they may well want to do so if attracted to, or supportive of your cause, so at the very least a simple online Book of Remembrance should not be beyond you.
It’s time to get real about in mem, realise that this is about donors and how they want to engage with us, and position our organisations to accept and value this type of gift.